Posted on June 29 2016
Name: Steve Hanks
Spiritual Age (How old do you feel?): 32
Location: Anchorage, AK
Occupation: Construction (Drywall Contractor)
Kid(s): Levi (age 7), Matthan (age 4)
How would you describe your personal style? I like simplicity. My wardrobe consists of mainly dark, earthy, solid colors.
What qualities and characteristics embody a Modern Father? I think a modern father is open-minded and looking for ways to achieve progress when it comes to the father role. A modern father should be looking at his own past and family history and figuring out what things can be improved upon when it comes to fathering. A modern father admits when he makes mistakes, is open-minded, involved, loving and affectionate, a good communicator, and a feminist to at least some degree. Great fatherhood traits don't always come naturally, but a modern father puts in the work to better himself for the sake of his children.
How would you describe your parenting style? I work hard at being loving, encouraging, and supportive of who my kids are as individuals. Children are individuals, and I try to keep that in mind. Different kids may need different things from their father. I try to always be calm and collected, so my kids feel a sense of stability and security.
How has becoming a father changed you? Becoming a father instantly humbled me. I knew that I had been given a beautiful gift - a child. I knew I would always put that child above myself, gladly and willingly. My universe expanded way beyond my wife and I.
Best/Worst parenting moment so far? Worst: My youngest son was diagnosed with mild cerebral palsy. I had tried really hard to be optimistic up to that point, hoping that there was nothing seriously wrong. But getting that diagnosis made me realize that some things in life were going to be harder for him, and there's wasn't anything I could do to change that. Best: Seeing Matthan make tremendous progress over a year or two of physical therapy was amazing. Gaining the strength and control to walk or run was a huge milestone and now I smile every time I see him run or jump. He will still need surgery, and physical things involving his legs will always be harder for him than Levi, but seeing improvement always feels great.
What are your hopes for your child(ren)? That they can be who/what they want to be without any fears or worries holding them back.
Favorite thing to do with your kids: Wrestle, learn/read books about science, play music
What empowers you as a father? Hearing my kids say "I love you" ten times each day, and getting smothered with hugs and kisses from them.
What do you want your legacy to be? I want my kids to go on in life with a confidence in who they are. And I hope that the way I father them can give them that confidence, and that they can pass on the love and support and encouragement that they got from me to others around them.
What fears do you have pertaining to being a father? The only thing I ever really fear is that things that are out of my control can hurt my kids. Judgment or hurt from others as they grow up is something that I can't necessarily protect them from. I can only hope to help them grow in confidence and self-love, so that the painful things in life are easier to bear.
Who is your role model? I don't have a lot of good fathers in my family/extended family's history, so naming a role model has always been tough. Anyone who spreads love, kindness, and acceptance is a role model to me. I admire anyone who is trying to make a positive change in the world.
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